When I was diagnosed with epilepsy, my first thought was that I didn’t want to burden my sons. When I told them about my condition, some of them said I should stay at home with them with a live-in caregiver no matter the situation. The others think that a nursing home should be an option to consider if the situation becomes too much to handle. I never thought about death planning before, but after some time of reflection, I realised there were a lot of things that I needed to write down and convey them to my sons before my condition deteriorates. Especially, if I don’t want my children to argue amongst themselves in the future. I write down my wishes because when my time comes where I can’t tell them what to do, I want my family to come together stronger and that they have nothing to feel guilty or stressed about.
– By Madam Loh W.M, age 71